The meaning of Communication is the response we get.
Ever been frustrated asking someone to complete a task, and you have spoken to them numerous times and wondered why they just don’t get it or seem to be prioritising it?
It could be that instead of being asked verbally their preference is to be shown. They other person maybe thinking i would prefer it if they just showed me what they wanted.
Or have you written numerous emails asking someone to do something and again been frustrated at the response. It could be the person your emailing would just prefer to be spoken too. The other person could just be wondering why you haven’t just picked up the phone and asked them.
So here you have 2 examples of communication that are mismatched in terms of rapport and both parties are probably frustrated with each other (they don’t get it, they just don’t understand) when in fact both parties probably want the same outcome but the communication styles are misunderstood.
The reason we communicate in these different ways is we process our surroundings through our senses and have a primary preference i.e eyes, ears, touch
So wouldn’t it be good to know your own communication preference and that of people you interact with.
So how does the Rep test help?
The 5 minute representational test can give you the information so you know your primary preference. Knowing this is a game changer for how we communicate, not only with the people we work with but at home as well with our partners or children.
It gives an insight into your own communication preferences and those of people that you interact with. This enables us to find ways of communicating more effectively with each other, to build better rapport and understanding.
It can help reduce the amount of miscommunication and conflict we experience by making us aware of our own communication style and what works best for others.
By knowing this information, it gives you a great insight into how you can tailor your approach to ensure that people feel understood and listened to – valuable traits in any relationship.
So lets look at the preferences
Visual Preference
They may typically use some of the following phrases
That looks good to me, I will look into it, I like the look of that, looking good
See you later, could we see it, I see what you mean,
It appears that way, so it appears, Seeing it in the flesh
Auditory Preference
They may typically use some of the following phrases
I hear you, sounds great, That makes sense to me
Let’s talk about it, I hear your point, Tell me more
It sounds right, I hear you loud and clear, that rings a bell
Kinaesthetic Preference
They may typically use some of the following phrases
That feels right, I’ll get on that, That gives me a good feeling, Let’s do it
I understand where you are coming from, Feels like the right thing to do, Let’s give it a go
It feels natural to me, I’m getting the hang of this, Hmm that resonates with me.
Auditory Digital Preference
They may typically use some of the following phrases
That makes sense to me, Let’s think it through, That adds up
Let’s reason it out, I understand your logic, What are the facts?
It stands to reason, Lets consider it, That follows logically.
You may notice that there are more visual examples in this blog as that is my preference.
So if your curious to find out your own preference take the representational test here
